The other day was the first day I watched the TV show, The Mistress. The things we do for love. I felt for these women knowing how it could have felt to be in that position. You can not judge them because when love is involved, you have no control of your actions.
I know of a lady who almost moved to another country because of a married man. She did not care if he was married with a kid because,all she wanted was to be close to him. The problem is that,most often in this type of relationship,the woman draws closer to the married man because of the love they showers on the woman. Let’s be honest here,who doesn’t want to be loved? We all longed to be loved and cherished, so, when that moment comes, we don’t care who it is. Especially if you have been ever hurt in the past.
This lady’s story wasn’t different either. She isn’t proud of what she did in the past. Out from a bad relationship,didn’t feel worthy and all of a sudden,she met a guy who gave her all the attention she needed. He listened,cared,loved and became her rock. Honestly,if you were in her shoes,would you have done differently? Watch the pretenders say yes they would have. hahaha. Bare in mind,we all act differently when crises arise.
The end of that affair wasn’t beautiful,I must tell you. It took her two good years to get over it. Did she wish for a guy like him in the past? Yes but now she knows better and doesn’t wish for some one like him. What brought the lady back to her senses was her friend. It takes a good friend to tell you what you are doing is wrong. Her friend never stopped talking to her about her actions. Her friend made her realized that there is nothing special about their bond. She was naive back then and believed everything that man said. She was so in love that she was blinded by the truth. This was all her friend said to her. “If he is cheating on his wife with you,what shows he won’t do that to you? As long as he is doing this to his wife,he will definitely do that to you. When you leave this relationship,he will find another woman to replace you.. Be smart,you are a smart girl” Just those simple words changed her life.
Till now, she is always thanking God for her friend and will forever be grateful. If that friend hadn’t said those words to her,she would have still been in the relationship; moved to that country and continuously be the other woman. The other woman who will always come second. The other woman who will never be able to let the world know who she loves,she will even be hindering her own blessings and guess what,worst of it all,she would never had met her loving husband.
I hope sharing this will touch someones life. We are far from perfect but when we are willing to change,I think we can. It is possible! Majority of these men do not have any intentions of making their Mistresses,the second wife or leave their wife for them. Hardly will you here of such. If you know somebody who is a Mistress and honestly feels like she has a life with her married man, please don’t condemn her. Don’t judge her because she knows not what she is doing. Show her love and explain things to her. Help her get out of that relationship because, she will not be able to do it alone. Giving her options to back out won’t help. It isn’t easy to back out from a relationship in which everything seems perfect.
Love is a strong force to recon.