Fake it till you make it? 

I had a conversation with a lady at a shop and what actually made her come to me was because of my daughter. I often go to the store she works so I guess, she has seen me before and noticed this time around I have a baby with me.

She asked if this was my first baby and I said yes. Then she started telling me how she has been trying to conceive for 3 years and the disappointments because it is just not happening. I listened attentively and when she finished,I was like wow, that was me 2 years ago. I told her how I was in the same situation as well. The reason why it was taking forever, what was actually the cause, how frustrated I was and the path I took to finally get pregnant. I didn’t mind opening up to her because I am not ashamed of my past. You could see she was relieved to know there is actually a way out.

On a normal day, she attends to a lot of customers. Reason why she chose me to share this with?Only God knows. One thing I know for a fact is, everything happens for a reason. Probably, God pushed her to me because I have been in that position before and talking to her will give her the answer she is seeking.Now she knows it is possible and maybe that’s what she needed to know; it’s possible.
Reason why I’m writing this up? I have come across a lot of people that need something(not want) but they pretend that they don’t around people and when they are alone, they cry,get  depressed, frustrated etc. These people are basically just faking it.
I am one firm believer when you need something, declare and decree, Put shame aside and ask,do not sit down and expect a miracle, find solution to your problem. Nobody is going to carry that cross for you. You never know who can help you, therefore, Stop pretending. In this case faking till you make it doesn’t work.

I have seen a number of people deceive themselves on how they don’t want to get married meanwhile its top on their list. They don’t want to get pregnant meanwhile, they have a medical problem and instead declaring good things, they keep prophesying negative words. They don’t like their job,deep down, if they get fired, it will crush them. How do you even expect to get promoted when you keep saying this to your colleagues who will definitely tell on you and finally, They don’t love their partners but we all know, they love them like crazy. Some people say many things contrary to what they really need, hence, contradicting themselves.
Always remember the tongue is a powerful weapon. Be careful of the things you say with it.


Rejected Stone

Certain people often are looked down by family members, friends and society and are never seriously taken for anything. just as the scriptural emphasis” can anything good come out of Nazareth?”  They never expect any good thing to come  from them. Most often they are looked down upon. It all comes down to you not being who they expect you to be. When I say rejected, It doesn’t necessarily mean people not talking to you or ignoring you,but the fact that they don’t believe in you. You don’t act in a manner they want, you don’t tackle things In a manner they want, you are not aggressive enough and the list goes on.

I know a lot of people can relate to what I’m talking about. You however have one of two choices to make, either accept this wrong notion  from them  or you prove them wrong. One major lesson I have learnt in life is that you can never please everybody.Therefore you have to do you! Honestly, it is quite sweet when you turn out to be that rejected stone the builders use to secure their building.

If you happen to be a rejected stone too, don’t let it get to you. Do not wallow in self pity or compare yourself to others or give these people the opportunity to win. Don’t let that negative vibe get to you. Have this at the back of your mind that Whatever hurtful words is being said to you knowingly or unknowingly, doesn’t define who you are. You can tackle things differently and at the end of it all, be successful.

How sweet it is when nobody is watching or expecting anything from you then boom!!! You surprise them. Trust me, people who doubted you will suddenly become friends. It’s never how fast you get to your destination, it’s getting there that matters.

We are all different and can never be the same and that is what makes us unique. Therefore, it’s normal to be different and that makes you, you.

Don’t stop believing in yourself. When you stop, you lose the fight. When it’s getting too much for you to cope, separate yourself from any negative vibe.