THE LIEBSTER AWARD


I am excited to announce that Lovelywhitney has been nominated for a Liebster award! What is this award about? It is an award that exists only on the internet and is given to bloggers by other bloggers. It is also to give exposure to bloggers who have 200 readers or less.

Before I continue, I will like to thank pinkandproperish for nominating me.

RULES FOR THE LIEBSTER AWARD: 

  1.  Thank the person who nominated you.
  2.  Answer the 11 questions they gave you.
  3.  Nominate 11 blogs.
  4.  Give them 11 questions to answer.

QUESTIONS FROM PINKANDPROPERISH:

  1. Tell us about yourself in 5 words?

Mother, wife, loving, hardworking and persistent.

  1. What made you decide to start blogging?

I started blogging because I feel like I have a lot to share and also because I love writing.

  1. Who has inspired you the most in your life?

I will say, my children. My children have inspired me to be a better person in life. I want to be a mum they can look up to, a mum they are proud of and that mum who does what is right for her children.

  1. What is your favorite pastime?

Watching my favorite tv series.

  1. Do you have any hidden talents?

Unfortunately, I don’t.

  1. Name 3 goals for your blog this year that you hope to accomplish?

Keep up with my weekly blogging, get more followers and increase in traffic.

  1. What’s the most difficult part of blogging for you?

Timing. I have a 2-year-old and an infant; hence, I am always busy with them. But when you love something, you will always find the time.

  1. Do you have a favorite blog?

There is a lot of blogs out there that have good content.

  1. What is your favorite topic to blog about?

I love blogging about motivational/inspirational topics.

  1. What impact do you want to live in the world?

I hope the way I live my life can impact someone positively. It doesn’t matter how slowly you go as long as you do not stop.

  1. If you could pick any job in the world, money aside, what would you choose?Writer.

MY NOMINEES: 

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Lawrifel Perges

Vnod Adhikari

Callie Anne Hollis

Myriam Trannet

Shivi Vats

 A crunchy peach Kendra

Okpaloafe Rawlings

Astrid H Vlahakis

Fiona Fassi

Matthew Evans

QUESTIONS FOR MY:

please don’t forget to link back to this website once you’ve answered on your blog.

  1. What is your favorite country?
  1. What is the most extreme thing you have ever done?
  1. What is your dream job?
  1. Ship or Plane?
  1. What/Who inspires you?
  1. What is one item on your bucket list?
  1. If you get stranded on the island, what two items will you like to have with you?
  1. From 1 to 5 how hard is it to leave without your cell phone?
  1. What is your pet peeve?
  1. Fall or Summer?
  1. When do you find time to blog?

 

 

 

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DON’T BOTTLE IT UP


We all have challenges and battles faced with as individuals in life.

Divergent and unique as they may seem, we still have to face each day as another opportunity to win a battle.

Through experience, I have come to the conclusion that it helps when you speak out instead of bottling everything up. Whatever it may be, sharing the load with someone else can really help.

You don’t  necessarily have to tell the whole world your problems, however finding that one person whom you feel comfortable and might give you the needed audience might be the needed strength and courage you need to win. Talking to someone brings relief, empathy, advice and the most important thing is knowing you are not alone.

You will be surprised how many have gone down the lane of depression and dejection as a result of their silence,

You do not have to suffer in silence, Open up! There is always someone ready to listen.

Love, Whitney

COMMUNICATION


Relationships Just like many other things in life may workout very well or may not. One thing I however attest to, which plays a vital role in nurturing relationship is “communication”.

Here are some tip bits to know whilst building a relationship:

  • First, learn to always tell the truth. Being honest and transparent will take you far. Do not cover up or lie when you see something wrong with the other. let them know the truth.
  • Learn to support each other always. Be their cheerleader.
  • In marriages,learn to share chores.I know some men think its the woman who takes care of the house but trust me, the little things you will do around the house for the woman,is much appreciated.
  • Learn not to complain too much. If you have a problem, just say it. Don’t beat around the bush.
  • Learn to be an active listener.
  • Do not assume because your partner can not read your mind.Assumptions has destroyed a lot of relationships.
  • Do not brag about your successes.
  • It is ok to share your values and opinions but do not force it down their throat.
  • Learn to eliminate “I” and use “WE”.
  • Learn to read body language. I remember when I was young,my Grandmother will caution me with people I thought were nice. She is like, “don’t you see from their face they do not like you”. In a relationship, it could be the other isn’t in a good mood,angry or upset.By learning body language you will be able to detect when your partner gets upset before it escalates.
  • Give space when needed. Everyone needs a me time.

Love, Whitney

 

IT IS NOT WHAT YOU THINK..


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We live in a society where we get pressured to do so many things. One thing we often forget is, when trouble comes our way, we are in it alone.

We compare ourselves to others and that brings unnecessary pressure on us.

Before you go ahead and envy anybody’s success in life,always remember, there was once a humble beginning.

You never saw the past struggles , you only see the end product that is beautiful or attractive.

If you ever try and you do not succeed, try again. Keep trying until you succeed. Some people are fortunate enough to get things handed over to them, yet they still fail. Unfortunately, majority of us are not that lucky. Does that mean we are not going to be successful? A big NO.

Life is not fair and that is a fact but because you are alive, you have the opportunity to turn things around.

Always remember, not everything that glitters is gold.

Tutu.


Fake it till you make it? 


I had a conversation with a lady at a shop and what actually made her come to me was because of my daughter. I often go to the store she works so I guess, she has seen me before and noticed this time around I have a baby with me.

She asked if this was my first baby and I said yes. Then she started telling me how she has been trying to conceive for 3 years and the disappointments because it is just not happening. I listened attentively and when she finished,I was like wow, that was me 2 years ago. I told her how I was in the same situation as well. The reason why it was taking forever, what was actually the cause, how frustrated I was and the path I took to finally get pregnant. I didn’t mind opening up to her because I am not ashamed of my past. You could see she was relieved to know there is actually a way out.

On a normal day, she attends to a lot of customers. Reason why she chose me to share this with?Only God knows. One thing I know for a fact is, everything happens for a reason. Probably, God pushed her to me because I have been in that position before and talking to her will give her the answer she is seeking.Now she knows it is possible and maybe that’s what she needed to know; it’s possible.
Reason why I’m writing this up? I have come across a lot of people that need something(not want) but they pretend that they don’t around people and when they are alone, they cry,get  depressed, frustrated etc. These people are basically just faking it.
I am one firm believer when you need something, declare and decree, Put shame aside and ask,do not sit down and expect a miracle, find solution to your problem. Nobody is going to carry that cross for you. You never know who can help you, therefore, Stop pretending. In this case faking till you make it doesn’t work.

I have seen a number of people deceive themselves on how they don’t want to get married meanwhile its top on their list. They don’t want to get pregnant meanwhile, they have a medical problem and instead declaring good things, they keep prophesying negative words. They don’t like their job,deep down, if they get fired, it will crush them. How do you even expect to get promoted when you keep saying this to your colleagues who will definitely tell on you and finally, They don’t love their partners but we all know, they love them like crazy. Some people say many things contrary to what they really need, hence, contradicting themselves.
Always remember the tongue is a powerful weapon. Be careful of the things you say with it.

Rejected Stone


Certain people often are looked down by family members, friends and society and are never seriously taken for anything. just as the scriptural emphasis” can anything good come out of Nazareth?”  They never expect any good thing to come  from them. Most often they are looked down upon. It all comes down to you not being who they expect you to be. When I say rejected, It doesn’t necessarily mean people not talking to you or ignoring you,but the fact that they don’t believe in you. You don’t act in a manner they want, you don’t tackle things In a manner they want, you are not aggressive enough and the list goes on.

I know a lot of people can relate to what I’m talking about. You however have one of two choices to make, either accept this wrong notion  from them  or you prove them wrong. One major lesson I have learnt in life is that you can never please everybody.Therefore you have to do you! Honestly, it is quite sweet when you turn out to be that rejected stone the builders use to secure their building.

If you happen to be a rejected stone too, don’t let it get to you. Do not wallow in self pity or compare yourself to others or give these people the opportunity to win. Don’t let that negative vibe get to you. Have this at the back of your mind that Whatever hurtful words is being said to you knowingly or unknowingly, doesn’t define who you are. You can tackle things differently and at the end of it all, be successful.

How sweet it is when nobody is watching or expecting anything from you then boom!!! You surprise them. Trust me, people who doubted you will suddenly become friends. It’s never how fast you get to your destination, it’s getting there that matters.

We are all different and can never be the same and that is what makes us unique. Therefore, it’s normal to be different and that makes you, you.

Don’t stop believing in yourself. When you stop, you lose the fight. When it’s getting too much for you to cope, separate yourself from any negative vibe.

Don’t play god. 


Growing up, I had my life all planned out on how I wanted things to unfold, for some reasons, I thought it will all play out perfectly. I grew up with my grandma. I didn’t have the traditional family where you have your parents and that was something I always longed for but one thing I am so grateful for, is my grandma. I couldn’t have asked for better guardian. 

Because of this, I was hoping that all other things should fall in place. I was my own god in my own world. But guess what?, it didn’t all go to my expectation because I was no god.

Everything and I mean everything I dream of ended up in the shallow bins. It was hard for me to believe or understand   what was going on. I looked at others and they had it all. They seemed to have all their wishes granted, and dreams come true.  Why couldn’t I just be as lucky as them? What was wrong with me? Time and time I wondered.

As I grew older and became closer to God, I realized how wrong I was, thinking the power to desire and make life decisions was all to my exclusive. Wisdom has revealed to me that as a child of God, He had it all planned for me and if I had been patient, it would have been perfect. I was busy planning my life when I should have been asking God for directions. I surrendered it all to God then everything started making sense.

After all I wasn’t unfortunate, those things didn’t happen because they weren’t ripe in the will  and wishes of God for my life.

I know there are some young Ladies/Gentlemen out there who are going through same difficulties as I did. I want to assure you that, it does get better with time. Stop playing your own god and surrender it to God. Stop being choosy,Stop judging a book by its cover,humble yourself,believe in yourself,be positive. Whatever religion you are in, I believe the God we worship wishes us nothing but the best. Don’t give up. It’s never about who finished first, it’s getting there that matters and just because you are not there yet, means you are a failure. I testify to that.

Xoxo

Tutu..