Mother’s Day Gift Ideas


Mothers day is around the corner and this year is my first time marking it as a mother. I am pretty excited about it. Believe me this is an experience every woman should want to experience (Be it biological or not).

I have put together ten gift ideas to help in buying a gift.

1. Necklace with the family’s birthstones.

2. If the mother still has an infant with her, backpack will be great. Something simple that is easily accessible.

3. Lingerie.

4. A gift card to the spa where she will get to be pampered from head to toe (massage,pedicure,manicure,facial).

5. If your wife or mother has shown interest in something she likes, buy it for her. Normally when we want something,we keep talking about it and that is our hint.

6. Personalized mothers day gift e.g, mug, picture frame.

7. Flowers.


8. Perfume.


9. Handbag.


10. Weekend getaway.




Once again, Valentine is upon us and some of us will go far and beyond to prove to their loved ones how much they love and appreciate them. It is not everybody that do the whole Valentine thing but whatever it is,you should not let Valentine day be the only day you give gifts or do something nice for your partner. You should always let them know how much you appreciate them.

I have put together a few gift ideas.


  • Boxer shorts
  • Shaving machine
  • Personalized mug
  • Inner T.shirt
  • Fragrance
  • Wrist Watch
  • Gold or silver chain; It is not all guys that wear necklace so make sure he likes it
  • Wallet
  • Shirt
  • Tool box
  • A candle lit dinner at home
  • Drink of his choice e.g, beer,wine


  • Lingerie
  • Chocolates
  • Flowers and a personalized card
  • Romantic getaway weekend
  • Wrist Watch
  • Heart necklace
  • Dinner at a fancy restaurant
  • Purse
  • If you plan on proposing, this will be a perfect time
  • Beauty products

Enjoy your Valentine day and do not forget to share the love with everybody.



January Favorites



  • Ysl opium perfume;I love this fragrance! It doesn’t matter how many perfumes I have, I always get drawn to this scent. It’s a classy, more mature scent. I don’t need to soak myself in it. A little bit goes a long way. The staying power is strong. 
  • mocassins;I really wore the heck out of it. It is very comfortable and as a mother, I need the comfort more than anything else. I got mine from OldNavy. 
  • Bath and body works Merry Berry Christmas shower gel and its Shea swirl;I got this scent for the Christmas season but being the addicted BBW shopper, I ended up using a different one for December. It smells like berry and it makes my skin so soft. I was a bit sceptic about the scent because of my daughter but initially I gave in and I don’t think it’s a bother to her.
  • I know who i am by Sinach; I am probably late getting on this wagon but ever since my hubby played this song, I haven’t been able to stop singing it . It’s inspirational and motivational. 
  •  Huggies baby wipes; as I wrote earlier on in one of my blogs, I get so tired I don’t even get time to clean my make up. I recently discovered my baby’s wipes does a great job taking make up off. So, I have been using it and it does a pretty good job. 
  • covert affairs, Jessica Jones series;  I am beginning to question myself why I still pay for cable because I hardly watch anything on it. What I need is more data because I am always on Netflix or YouTube. I recently bumped into Jessica Jones and Covert Affairs on Netflix and it’s a damn good series.
  • Sephora Cream lip Stain #5;this is a neutral colour and I have been grabbing it a lot because I don’t have to be worried leaving lipstick stain on my baby’s face. 
  • NYX above&beyond full coverage concealer; I use it to cover the bags under my eye and give to give it a little brightness. It does not crease. 
  • The body shop Drops of youth; this is my favourite serum. It leaves my face smoother and brighter. 



The other day was  the first day I watched the TV show, The Mistress. The things we do for love. I felt for these women knowing how it could have felt to be in that position. You can not judge them because when love is involved, you have no control of your actions.

I know of a lady who almost moved to another country because of a married man. She did not care if he was married with a kid because,all she wanted was to be close to him. The problem is that,most often in this type of relationship,the woman draws closer to the married man because of the love they showers on the woman. Let’s be honest here,who doesn’t want to be loved? We all longed to be loved and cherished, so, when that moment comes, we don’t care who it is. Especially if you have been ever hurt in the past.

This lady’s story wasn’t different either. She isn’t proud of what she did in the past. Out from a  bad relationship,didn’t feel worthy and all of a sudden,she met  a guy who gave her all the attention she needed. He listened,cared,loved and became her rock. Honestly,if you were in her shoes,would you have done differently? Watch the pretenders say yes they would have. hahaha. Bare in mind,we all act differently when crises arise.

The end of that affair wasn’t beautiful,I must tell you. It took her  two good years to get over it. Did she wish for a guy like him in the past? Yes but now she knows better and doesn’t wish for some one like him. What brought the lady back to her senses was her friend. It takes a good friend to tell you what you are doing is wrong. Her friend never stopped talking to her about her actions. Her friend made her realized that there is nothing special about their bond. She was naive back then and believed everything that man said. She was so in love that she was blinded by the truth.  This was all her friend said to her.  “If he is cheating on his wife with you,what shows he won’t do that to you? As long as he is doing this to his wife,he will definitely do that to you. When you leave this relationship,he will find another woman to replace you.. Be smart,you are a smart girl”  Just those simple words changed her life.

Till now, she is always thanking God for her friend and will forever be grateful. If that friend hadn’t said those words to her,she would have still been in the relationship; moved to that country and continuously be the other woman. The other woman who will always come second. The other woman who will never be able to let the world know who she loves,she will even be hindering her own blessings and guess what,worst of it all,she would never had met her loving husband.

I hope sharing this will touch someones life. We are far from perfect but when we are willing to change,I think we can. It is possible!                                           Majority of these men do not have any intentions of making their Mistresses,the second wife or leave their wife for them. Hardly will you here of such.    If you know somebody who is a Mistress and honestly feels like she has a life with her married man, please don’t condemn her. Don’t judge her because she knows not what she is doing. Show her  love and explain things to her. Help her get out of that relationship because, she will not be able to do it alone. Giving her options to back out won’t help. It isn’t easy to back out from a relationship in which everything seems perfect.

Love is a strong force to recon.




Low or high standards,we all have one. It is important to have standards and set an example. Has your standards worked for you? Good if it has  but, if it has not,then you need to do something about it.

In life we all have standards on what we want. It could be the kind of car we want to drive, the kind of house we want to buy in the future, the type of man or woman we want to get married to and the lists goes on.

Sometimes, we set our standards so high forgetting that we are just humans and anything can happen. The only thing constant in life is change, so we need to be open minded about everything.

Do not get me wrong,It’s definitely good to maintain high standards but some people set their standards so high,when they do not achieve it,they become depressed. Especially in relationships,we  expect way too much and when things do not go the way we want it to be, we get so disappointed.  One way or the other,we have all sabotaged our relationships(past or present) . It may not be deliberately but on some level subconscious. What do you think?

One advice I will give is when setting a standard you want to achieve, be realistic about it. Do not build castles in the air because at the end of it all,you will not be  fooling anybody. You will be fooling yourself.

If you set standards by which you are not able to adhere, then you are probably not doing it right.

Interracial marriages…



The world is getting smaller by the day.

Race is no longer a boundary to others when it comes to matters of the heart.

It is beautiful to see cultures mixing without any hindrances.

Gone are the days when it was a taboo for Black to marry White or even Asians to marry Black or White or Hispanic to marry White,Black or Asian, etc.

Gone are the days when cultures do not marry from other cultures.

But now, you will be surprise to see there is no barrier.

Every where you turn to, you will see interracial marriages. Black with White, Hispanic with White or Black, Indian with Chinese or even Indian with White or Black.

Isn’t that beautiful?

Even within some countries, discrimination against other tribes existed.

But now, you will notice tribe is no longer a problem.

It is such a beautiful thing to see us all come together as one.

Do not get me wrong, such cases still exist but it is not as bad as it used to be.

People are now educated and majority, thinking outside the box.

Definitely some cultures are against this unity but they can not do anything about it.

When the heart is willing,who are you to change its course.

In the future, the world is going to be an exotic place.

Our children’s children are going to be so different.

It is going to be hard to tell where they come from and that is what we need in this world because, we need UNITY.

The last thing on peoples mind will be racial differences.

It is time for people to start changing their mind set.

The earlier the better!





Hello everyone, hope the month May has been treating you all good.  I have been quite bothered about what I saw today and before I get to the topic, I just want to make this clear, I am not against anybody who smokes but what I am against is when a smoker smokes around a child. That is just totally wrong.

I decided to take a walk today because the weather was nice. On my way, I saw these couples smoking while walking with their kid, whom if I am right is about 2years old.  As an adult, I know the effects of second hand smoking so I stay away from where people are smoking but what does that poor child know? I honestly felt bad for that child because children are at higher risk of getting sick since their lungs are still developing and they turn to inhale more of the smoke because they breathe faster than adults. There are many side effects of second hand smoking and to think one will smoke around a child is just ridiculous.

Let me just take this opportunity to  clarify what  second hand smoking is and some of the side effects because clearly, it seems some people are still unaware of the side effects.

Second hand smoking is an environmental tobacco that is inhaled involuntary or passively by someone who is not smoking. The concentration of hydrogen cyanide (a poisonous gas that attacks respiratory enzymes) in tobacco smoke is considered toxic.


Some of the SHORT TERM SIDE EFFECTS of second hand smoking includes; eye irritation, headache, cough, sore throat, dizziness and nausea. Adults with asthma can also experience a significant decline in lung function when exposed second hand smoke. And also, just 30 minutes of exposure is enough to reduce blood flow to heart and the LONG TERM EFFECTS will be lung cancer, stroke, respiratory illness, heart disease.


Some of the SIDE EFFECTS  children suffer  are the sudden infant death syndrome (Typically the infant is found dead after having been put to bed, and exhibits no signs of having suffered),  increased rate of middle ear disorder, lower respiratory illness (croup, bronchitis, bronchiolitis and pneumonia) asthma and worsening of asthmatic symptoms, and reduced lung growth.

If you are a parent and you smoke around your child, obviously you do not love your child. Because, if you do, you will try not to harm him or her and also applies to adults who smoke around other children, you do not love them.

And to end it, some important facts; estimated about 46,000 deaths from heart disease is non- smokers who live with smokers and about 3,400 lung cancer death in non-smoking adult.

Hope this will enlighten people about the seriousness about second hand smoking.. Let us try to make this world a better place.

Peace and Love




Growing up, I had to take a subject called Cultural Studies in Junior High. Clearly I thought it was just another subject I had to take in school to pass by but what I didn’t realize was, it was going to play a bigger role in my life. One thing that I definitely did learn is to respect other peoples culture. Culture simply termed, Is a way a group of people live in a particular community. It has to deal with their beliefs,knowledge, experience,values, attitudes, meanings, hierarchies, religion etc.. There are so many cultures in the world and they both differ. In each way,it is unique to its people and they respect it. For another person to disrespect another culture,that is totally rude and wrong.

Although everybody is entitled to their own opinion and has the freedom of speech, I think it will be wise for one to educate him/herself  in the culture before criticizing it. Discussions and readings about other cultures will definitely help build cultural awareness, but the opinions presented must be carefully measured or it will lead to unwarranted stereotypes. It is always a good idea to get varied viewpoints about the same culture. Some people need to watch what they say about other peoples culture because we live in a multicultural society and you maybe offending people.

I think people  need to respect other peoples culture and not disrespect it. Everybody’s culture is unique and beautiful whether you like it or not.



Admitted,Valentine is a day for lovers but it should also be for people who care about each other,like friends and family.. Friends and family can also exchange gifts.

Back in the day when I was in Accra,I remember in Junior high, we always had service when it was Valentine’s day. We did that because I was in a catholic school and they used this occasion to teach us about Saint Valentine. I bet not many people know the whole idea about Valentine’s day. If you don’t, do your  research about it. During this day, my friends and I normally exchange gifts. It was just a normal day for us,no biggie. Then, I went to Senior high where I realized people do take it more serious. It was quite a big deal. On Valentine day,the color RED is very popular. Especially when it comes to clothes. Yes,people will actually go shopping for something red just to wear on that day in town. Now a days,it isn’t as bad as it used to be. It did suck for people who did not have  lovers though,because,you are left out of the action(romance). I have had good valentine days with friends and loved ones.

I hope everybody will have a good Valentine’s day. If you do not have a gift to offer,just tell that person how much you care and love them but if you want to go all out, do not let anything hold you back.  For those who do not have lovers,it is not the end of the world. Don’t be sad, treat yourself to something you love and finally, to those who broke up with their girlfriends ahead because of Valentine’s day, shame on you.:-) .

Have a Happy Valentine’s Day!

Love and kisses,Tutu.

What is the world coming to?


I was in a store recently waiting for a friend of mine to try some clothes on. There was a sitting place for friends or family members to wait. Because it was a weekend,the waiting place was packed so there was no where to sit. There were two young guys,probably teenagers sitting down without feeling the need to give the chairs to the ladies. Nobody complained and they were left alone. But this was just too much for me when an older lady in her 50’s came in trying to find a place to sit. Everybody turned to look at these two guys expecting one of them to stand up and give his sit to the older lady as a form of respect..

This young boy,with no manners,opened his filthy and disrespectful mouth to tell the older lady,”if you are waiting for me to stand up,am sorry. I am not going to give you the sit.” Wow, everybody was shocked…he did not  feel guilty or ashamed as he altered those words to the  poor lady who you could see was really tired and needed to sit. It is a different thing if he had just looked away and said nothing. But in this situation he knew what he was doing was wrong.Another lady had to give her sit away. The older lady said nothing but smiled at him. After they left, she said she smiled because she is not surprised at all. She said this generation keeps getting worst and she fears what it is going to be like in the next ten years or so. There is no respect whatsoever.

I totally agree with her how there is no respect but it is just sad to see people treat the elderly with no respect. Do you blame these kids or their parent for how they are? Do they treat strangers only like that or to their parents as well?  It baffles me when I replay what went on that day in my mind. Truly the world is changing in all aspects.